Aces & Aros Café lgbtqiA ❤️ 1e edition

1e editie
(english below)
ben je aspec, dus op het aromantische en asexuele spectrum of vraag je je af of je dat bent?
heb je geen begrijp of veel moeite of een hekel aan de maatschappelijke ideeén van normativiteit van relaties, of liefde nodig is om een goed leven te hebben, of dat je zonder seks ‘heel veel mist’ of of of (*insert bullshit bingo statements*)?
we nodigen je uit voor een avondje met cake en garlic bread en thee en couches, maar zonder drugs en alcohol 😎
✅️Voel je vrij ook te komen om queer voor jezelf te zijn op de bank te chillen en te lezen of zo.
❌️No pressure for hookups either (looking at you,my aroace friends!)
🔻waar: anarcho boekenplek @opstand.denhaag (beatrijsstraat 12, Den Haag)
🔻waneer: zaterdag, 07.05.2022. inloop vanaf 17.00 **
graag vooraanmelden vanwegen covid via instagram dm of email (boekenwinkelopstand at riseup dot net)
🎪het plek/covid/toegankelijkheid
social anxiety is een ding en veel van ons raken ook snel overprikkeld. Als je wilt komen, een je hebt specifieke benodigdheden, laat het weten! er is iig een ruimte met couches waar je ook kunt zitten. de ingang en de toiletten zijn helaas beperkt toegankelijk voor rolstoelgebruikers (in specifiek zijn het de brandveiligheidsdeuren, die zwaar zijn, en de ingangsdeur welke alleen met een handle naar buiten toe opengaat.)
🌬 Covid: je mag je eigen masker meenemen, anders hebben we ook maskers en zelftests op locatie, maar wees solidair en doe eentje voordat je komt. Er is geen maximum aan mensen, maar afhankelijk van hoeveel er komen gaan we even aanpassen en kijken hoe we het het veiligst kunnen maken!
❕️check in met mensen voor triggerwarnings en persoonlijke grensen, wees geen pannekoek.
Joey gaat je host zijn en die praat engels en nederlands.
**dit evenement is specifiek bedoeld voor mensen die aro
en/of ace zijn of zich afvragen of ze het zouden kunnen zijn
Aces & Aros Café lgbtqiA ❤️ 1st edition
are you aspec (on the aromatic and asexual spectrum) or are you wondering if you are? do you not really understand or have much difficulty or hate towards society’s ideas of normativity of relationships, ask yourself why people believe that love is necessary to have a good life, or why without sex you are presumably gonna ‘miss a lot’ or or or (*insert bullshit bingo statements* )?
we invite you for an evening with cake and garlic bread and tea and couches, but without drugs and alcohol 😎
✅️Feel free to come too to be queer to yourself chilling and reading or whatever.
❌️No pressure for hookups either (looking at you,my aroace friends!)
🔻where: anarcho book spot @opstand.denhaag (beatrijsstraat 12, The Hague)
When: Saturday, 07.05.2022. walk-in from 17.00 **
please pre-register due to covid via instagram dm or email (bookstore stand at riseup dot net)
🎪the place/covid/accessibility
social anxiety is a thing and many of us are easily overstimulated. If you want to come, or you have specific needs, let us know! there is a room with couches where you can also sit. unfortunately the entrance and the toilets have limited access for wheelchair users (specifically it is the fire doors, which are heavy, and the entrance door which only opens outwards with one handle.)
🌬 Covid: you can bring your own mask, otherwise we also have masks and self-tests on location, but show solidarity and do one before you come. There is no maximum number of people, but depending on how many come we will adjust and see how we can make it safest!
❕️check in with people for trigger warnings and personal limits, don’t be a pancake. Joey will be your host and he will speak English and Dutch.
**this event is specifically for people who are aro and/or ace or wondering if they could be

QSU 21/08 – This week: Talking Round about Relationship Anarchy from a QueerFem Perspective

a purple header. in the middle are light blue freckles as a background for a text saying: relationship anachy from a queerfem perspectove. below is a short disclaimer in lgiht pink about cis-hets participation only with limited access. on the right upper corner there is an relationshipanarchysymbold that is queered. (it is a heart with an A in it, and there are the arrows of the transfeminismsymbol on it)
This week: Talking Round about Relationship Anarchy from a QueerFem perspective! (English)
Foreword: !COVID19 safety measurements and restriction have changed!
Inside a restaurant max. 6 people are allowed. We ain’t a restaurant but our place is quite small – We hope for no rain, thus we can sit outside with appropriate distance. Please take your own mondkapje for safety. (if you forgot or still decide to come, we have some at the bookstore as well). We’ll do our best to facilitate it as covid19 and machosafe as possible.
Accessibility: Wheelchair accessible through the restaurant (there is also a suitable toilet). If you need anything special event- or locationrelated during or before or after the event, let us know.
Next Tramstation is Anna Bijnslaan. Adress is Beatrijsstraat 12! Parking is difficult but possible in the surroundings.
For Allergics: 2 cats live in De Samenscholing. Let us know is we can make it any better for you.
This week we will talk about Relationship Anarchy.
What will it be about?
The content will be mainly related to a paper called ‘Thinking Relationship Anarchy from a Queer Feminist Approach’.
It is a text from 2018 by Roma De las Heras Gómez (you can find it under this link or in this one ). She is a bi-lesbian feminist activist for non-conventional relationships and works on sex education and relationship anarchy.
The text is sociological research. We’re gonna make it more accessible in language. It is influenced by lesbian feminism and sexual theory.
Interesting to know: Relationship Anarchy is a philosophy of love but also a way of structuring affective bonds, breaking with norms and a political philosophy – we’ll go deeper into that last point on friday!
Which format will it take?
We will talk about the text, there will be a introduction and or small summary of it. We could also combine it with reading or findings of your own about this topic, so feel free to bring what you know and feel invited to read the text beforehand 🙂
!!! To our non queer participants !!!:
This session will be a discussion by and for queers – meaning that priority will be given to queer people. People who do not identify as queer and who wish to participate nevertheless can send an email beforehand ( We will let you know by Friday 14.00 if the situation allows for your presence or not.
xoxo QSU

Queer Spreek Uur: queer resistance to gentrification.

LGBT communities have been blamed as a source of gentrification. However, queer neighbourhoods have also had to fight against it. We will be reading/watching/listening to media related to the ambivalent role of queers in the issue of gentrification.

The plan for the evening is:

1. Talk about how queers are being gentrified out of London, particularly in SoHo.
2. Discuss how queer oriented tourism in Amsterdam is gentrifying the city.
3. Have a discussion on queer resistance to gentrification.

Meeting is on Friday at 19.00 at the Opstand, Beatrijsstraat 12. Discussion starts around 20.00.

A reminder that the QSU people are recognizable by their big LGTBI-flag buttons and you can approach them every Friday from 19.00 onwards with any questions about queerness. Non queers are also welcome both to the questions and to the discussion.

Stonewall Riots!

This week at the Queer Spreek Uur: Stonewall Riots!


19.00 Open office hour – come in with all your questions, struggles and anger; we’re here to listen ????
The QSU team will be sitting in the Opstand and recognisable by their rainbow buttons. You can approach any and all of us with your questions.

20.00 Movie Screening – Happy Birthday, Masha! a short fiction movie about the hours that preceded Marsha P. Johnson’s death, followed by Before Stonewall a documentary that retraces LGBTI+ history prior to Stonewall.

21.30 Discussion round: What is so powerful about the myths like the Stonewall Riots, especially in constructing a queer resistance?

P.S.: we now hav17/queer-spreekuur-qsu/e an email address. Shoot us your questions, wishes and/or recommendations:


Deze week tijdens de Queer Spreek Uur: de Stonewall Rellen!


19.00: Vrije Spreek Uur – kom binnen met al je vragen, dingen waar je mee worstelt of woede tegen het systeem, wij zijn hier om te luisteren. De QSU mensen zullen in de Opstand zitten, en herkenbaar zijn aan hun regenboog buttons. Je kan ons benaderen voor al je vragen.

20.00 Film screening – Happy Birthday Marsha! een kort fictie film over de uren die de Stonewall rellen hebben voorgegaan en daarna Before Stonewall een documentaire dat LHBTI+ geschiedenis tot en met Stonewall naloopt.

21.30 discussie rondom de thema: wat is de kracht van mythes zoals de Stonewall Rellen in het opbouwen van queer verzet?

P.S.: wij hebben nu een email adres. Stuur ons je vragen, wensen en/of aanraders:

Queer Spreekuur! QSU!

A flyer in portrait format, with jellyfish as background , in the front white font with information that si to be found in the text as well>>> Launch of the QueerSpreekUur, from now on every Friday in the Opstand ! <<<

Last Friday we launched the first of our queer evenings, with a documentary retracing the trajectories of queercore “how to punk a revolution”. Watching this documentary was another reminder of the importance of digging out our queer history and doing archival work to remember that we’ve existed through the ages and that we’ve resisted throughout time.
We’ve been systematically killed, hunted down and shamed, erased from history and overwritten by hegemonic culture. But don’t believe we’ve been sitting silently, waiting to appear only when capitalism would find a way to commodify our deviant bodies and desires. In the shadows of homophobia, misogyny and transphobia we’ve been making our own history. Working in the night, we’ve been crafting a language and a way of being that could escape the forces keeping us down, finding the words to yell our coming into being and shake down the reigning order.

Because, when your existence itself is at stake you have no choice but to fight. Our desires make us outcasts and fuel our anger.
We are queer, queer as in against the state and capitalism, queer as in against borders and racism/islamophobia, queer as in against pinkwashing and the use of our desires to justify horrendous and discriminatory politics.

Another thing to remember from this movie: the power of imagination and how our desires can shape the reality we live in. Unsatisfied with their surroundings, these punks pretended what they wanted already existed and made it happen. We’ll keep that in mind during the following queer nights and let ourselves be inspired by their actions.

Welcome to QueerSpreekUur, come along to queer anarchism together. Every Friday at 18.30 in the anarchist bookstore Beatrijsstraat 12. Any questions or requests? Mail us!
Queer liberation is for everyone!